Normal guy who grew up in the country. Attracted to real men who can be physical. Complete novice but want to learn more. Trying to work on getting in better shape. Found someone who summed it up pretty well so respectfully borrowed his words. - Don't take this wrestling thing too seriously. See it for what it is: two men who get off on the male bonding, sweat, and muscle to muscle struggle. Oil, rip/strip, stakes (all kinds), exchange/practice moves and holds all good. Whether full-on submission grappling or roleplay, the alpha male struggle is a bigtime turn-on for me. I am always looking for opponents who like the same.